She Doesn’t Have to BE

11903946_10204705465500842_6486131563214077616_nMy daughters are my whole world. They are 13 and 16 now, and the days show no signs of slowing down at all. As the years have unfolded, our lives have endured many a twisty route, both extreme good and a little bit of bad. Their father and I divorced in 2004 when they were 3 and 1. Since that time, of course we have both moved on.  The first summer my youngest called me bawling her eyes out because her dad’s GIRLFRIEND had made her clean her room and wash a dish, I was enraged.  I was a whole bunch of emotions that I wasn’t sure how to label. Mostly though, I was nervous to think of someone else in my daughters lives.  How dare some other woman make my child fold a blanket. Who did this GIRLFRIEND think she was?

17796120_1426719260692970_21785208591364947_nWell… let me tell you who she is…. she’s someone who in the last five years has taken my daughters to soccer practices, drama rehearsals, doctors appointments, school when they were late, movies, dinners, photo shoots. She is someone who never tries to impose on my role as their mother, but loves them like only family can. She doesn’t complain about hanging out with them or time that their dad spends with them. She doesn’t tell them they aren’t important to her. She doesn’t neglect them because they are not her own children.

13529045_641102126042541_5500849715280343824_nShe’s someone who makes me want to be the best step-mom I can be. She’s someone that my daughters appreciate having in their lives. She’s someone they can call when they’re too nervous to call me or their dad. She’s someone that loves them very much. She takes pictures of them, and is proud of their successes. And part of their success is having so many people in their lives that love them, when they didn’t have to. She doesn’t have to take Faith to soccer when I can’t. She doesn’t have to bring Hailey lunch money when she’s  forgotten, and I’m already at work. But she does. And because she does I think she should know I am proud to share Mother’s Day (just a little) with her. More than honored. Amber, I hope you know how much the girls love having you around all the time. And I hope you have a very Happy Mother’s Day!!

One thought on “She Doesn’t Have to BE

  1. What a wonderful tribute to “the other mom”. That Mom is often time forgotten neglected from celebratory thoughts. Although she plays the same role in a different section of the heart, she’s often overlooked or forgotten.
    You are a blessing to her as she is to you. 😊


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